How to Tell Your Kids You’re Getting a Divorce

No part of a marital split is fun, but one of the most difficult steps is telling your kids that you and your spouse are getting divorced or separated. No parent wants to cause their children pain or to break up a family. However, informing your children about your divorce has to be done. Keep in mind that this conversation will likely be a “flashbulb memory,” or a memory your kids will hold onto forever.

The way you tell your children about divorce will also set the foundation for the entire process. While you can’t make this painful conversation easy, you can avoid making it unnecessarily difficult or upsetting.

In this article, we’ll review how to tell kids about divorce. We’ll discuss some steps you can take to prepare for this conversation, what to expect from your children, and how to lay a positive groundwork for the future. There is no right way to tell your kids you’re getting a divorce, but there are certainly worse ways than others.

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